Why do we (teenagers) feel so lonely?
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Why do we consider ourselves so alone?
Some teenagers feel alone and would like some company once in a while.
Most of them would not admit that fully (that they need help) but in the end, everyone does, whether its obvious or not, or whether we want it or not. Most of the time, we are certain of managing everything by ourselves, but in reality we can't. It is considered to be one of the most difficult phases of life. And it is just like that.
I find myself sitting alone in my room (even because I have no sisters or brothers) and just open up the internet and go on social network in the hope that someone does care about you. In the hope that other people appreciate you for who you are. Some of your friends do, and some of them fake it. How can you know?
I guess school makes it difficult at this point. For example, in my school, everyone is snobby and only cares about physical appearance. I am not like that. Many people change their attitude, their ways, their personality and themselves in order to be accepted by this little strange society.
Your parents won't "understand" your problems even if they say they do. What we do instead, we go on the internet, go on websites like "StumbleUpon", "Tumblr", "Twitter" and mostly on "Facebook" or "Skype", to find something: the passion that we lost, the happiness that we need.
Now I know that happiness cannot be found on the internet, but a little distraction is very useful at times. Especially if you feel like crying an you go on the internet and find people of your same age having the same issues and dealing with them like you do. Its nice to know that you are not the only one having that particular problem. You can see their point of views.
And like this you make friends. VIrtual friends that you wish were real and were right beside you. But they aren't. WHY???!! Why can't we have long term lasting friends... ? People talk behind our backs, especially the ones you thought were your friends.
I know this is kind of depressing but in a teenage world, most of it works like this. Time changes and people get meaner and meaner as we grow. They care about how thin your are and how popular you are... not how your personality is. WHAT A SAD WORLD.
People expect you to be who you're not.
Why do I always have to look good for other people.. and when I do for me, people blame me for that. They don't accept who you really are and there is this famous quote that states: "We don't let change happen, because when a thing is different, we change it back to normal".
Delusions
They are the most unsatisfying feelings of all.
.You really trust someone and would be ready to do anything for them and they let you down the moment you need them. This happens to me all the time. I wonder why...I am such a good friend and let other people ruin my life so easily. What I do then, is have a friend less and continue with my life as usual... problematic as always... nothing much
Reasons why we feel alone
- Family problems (most of the pain comes from here)
- No real friends (just faces that pretend to be)
- No acceptance in society (as a whole or even in smaller groups like schools... who you are may not be accepted from everyone.. and yet... we all have right... unfortunately not respected for some of us)
- Not satisfied with your life
- No-one understands you
- Not accepted for your choices (music artists/genre, fashion style, personality, etc.)
- Prejudices (some people find it fun to criticize you when they have no clue who you are, and as they do so, other people start to think negative things about you as well, and so rumors start.. and when they do... its difficult to stop them)
- Being afraid to speak up (sharing of opinions becomes difficult, and you get trapped by your own self)
There are so many more reason... the list is just to long ...
Never give up believing
Related Quotes
"And be careful of what you do, 'cause the lie become the truth" Michael Jackson
"There's nothing wrong with you, there's a lot wrong with the world you live in" Chris Colfer
"Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly" St. Francis De Sales
"It is better to be hated for who you are, than to be love for something you are not" Andre Gide
"No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt
"If you care about what others think, then you will be forever their slave"
"Don't ever let somebody tell you, you can't do something" Will Smith
"Life is not about people who act true to your face. It's about people who remain true behind your back"
"Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had"
Remember this always
Useful website to visit
- Teen Life Skills Videos * Teen Stress Video * Teen Loneliness * Teen Depression * Teen Suicide * Und
Power Surge Guidance Videos and Character Education Videos for teens teach life skills in a real life unrehearsed interview format. Perfect for at-risk or any situation where values need to be taught to teens. - The Cure for Loneliness | Teens
To help Christian high school and early college students navigate adolescence with their faith intact - 10 Tips For Relieving Loneliness
Loneliness strikes almost everyone at some point in life. Here are 10 tips for relieving loneliness, from writing about your feelings to getting out and helping others. - Are You Lonely? | Psych Central
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@crackers10
Thank you very much for your comment. I completely understand what you are saying and i couldn't agree more. I am so happy that your life turned out to be very nice and i am happy that you got to be happy in the end and happy to be yourself.
Thank you very much for the comment... !! :)
Hang in there, I have a teenage son who was once very popular and had a lot of friends and then one day he didnt. He became depressed and lonely and went through a very dark phase which scared the hell out of everyone. I couldnt figure out what was wrong and eventually just decided to be there for him and not ride him about it. He's changed and has slowly started to come out of it. It's been a while but I can start to see he's happier. He's had some help with a counselor when he was ready and finds he is much happier with a couple of good friends than a bunch of not so good ones. It will bet better.
@dawney
thank you for your comment. I am happy to hear that he is feeling much better... obviously it is just a phase of life... some teenagers feel the pressure more than others..
but i am very happy he is starting to talk more and coming out.
This has been going on since the dawn of man, but I think it's gotten worse in society now. I'm in my early 20s and as a girl I felt these pressures a lot in school. There were certain expectations of me on how to act and dress and if I didn't conform, then I was a loser. When I got into college people tended to be more accepting and care less about differences, but people still passed judgement.
Hi, this is a great hub! I spent most of my teenage years feeling lonely. Although I was very bright and always had top grades, I had very few friends. My Mom said it was better to have few friends. But still I believe I was a social person who wanted lots of friends, but I just couldn't fit in for some reason. Realizing this made me quite self-conscious - like something was wrong with me. Growing up really helps! Now, I've shed off many of those negative traits I had in my teen years and mostly, I don't give a damn what other people think. Once again, great hub, made me reminisce early in the morning!
@ Rehana Stormne
I am glad you liked this Hub. :) Unfortunately we all have to go through the "lonely phase" but luckily most of us manage to get through it, and i agree with you on the fact that it is relieving when you realize that all the comments people make about you are mostly because they are jealous or they just have nothing better to do with their own life. Thanks again for commenting :))
Unfortunately, however(although not always), this kind of meanness by kids in their teens all too often carries over into adulthood. I still remember being excluded and kept out of things because I was different than the other kids I grew up living with and going to school with. I was not only routinely subject to nasty taunts by some stupid boys, but I was also excluded and ostracized by girls, as well. Girls can be rather sneaky. There were two girls in my grade, on my street, who were the best of friends and not only played together, but did things together as well. They were like peas in a pod. Often enough, I'd come and ask if I could play or join in, and they'd make up some sort of an excuse. I was very seldom invited to play or do things with the other kids, and they very seldom allowed me to join them in whatever they were doing. It hurt, I cried about it frequently, but I often received this sort of "well, it's your own fault--you've gotta change" attitude. Of course, I couldn't change for the other kids. That's something I couldn't and wouldn't do.
I was never asked to dance at school dances, so, after a point, I stopped going.
I realize that many of these kids, including one of the girls on my street who used to constantly exclude me from things, are the same snotty people that they were as teenagers.
Adults, too, can tease. I remember one summer, about 33 years ago, I had a summer job at a sweater warehouse right down near a tough white working class section of Boston. Although there were a number of high school students and college students (including myself) who worked there in the summer, there were a number of men and women from the nearby white working class area who worked there year around to support themselves and their families on the poor wages that they were paid at that job. Many of them were uneducated, with no skills, and probably dropped out of high school to take these jobs, or took these jobs right after high school, but who knows. ?
Although there was much funny bantering from some of the guys who worked there year around, with the students who worked at this particular warehouse, some of them were less tolerant, even as adults, of differences. A young man, a Senior at U/Mass Boston, who was going back to school in the fall, came to work at the warehouse towards the end of the summer. I don't know what his problems were, but he definitely had some problems that helped explain a lot of the weird things that he did. Many of the guys who worked there, including some of the students, but especially the year round guys, teased this young man unmercifully. Sometimes, some of the women would come to this young man's defense and tell them to quit teasing him, but that generally fell on deaf ears.
I think that, in any case, most people don't really change all that much.
I admit that some of the memories are still vivid in my mind, even though it was all years ago. Somebody once said that people who're nasty will get theirs someday. In some cases, it proved right. One guy from my old hometown who was always nasty to me ended up a severe alcoholic, although I don't know what happened to him as of now. Another guy ended up a heroin addict and served a jail term for stealing in order to obtain heroin. Still another guy ended up with Alzheimer's Disease and had to be put into a home by his two grown children.
Even adults online, too, can be really nasty. There are a couple of blogs that I stopped posting on because the other posters on that board couldn't and wouldn't tolerate my dissenting opinions on things. I decided that it wasn't worth it, and stayed off of those blogs.
I did't read all the posts but as a man lot of you and I think we should all accept them. As a aman of 47yrs I can, I know any man can say sorry but as my cousin said to say sorry means to forgive and forget but to those
who are like me its hard but not impossible. fro
m someone who does't deserve anything . LOVE YOU ALLL TLZ
its first time im visiting this site ..... its really a great hub im a teenager and i face all the probs dat's listed ... they are realistic
crackers10 9 months ago
Oh yea,I remember those feelings. I'm 23 so it wasn't too awful long ago. I remember wishing I could fit in,but not really wanting to because the cool kids were morons. They were selfish,superficial,mean,and dumb. But we wanted to be like them anyway. And why? Because it meant we wouldn't sit alone at lunch,it meant having people to talk to. I was the kid that wanted to fit in,wanted everyone to like them but refused to hide myself to do it. As a result everyone thought I was weird and didn't really like me. But you know what? The qualities that made those kids turn up their noses are the same qualities that people love in me now as an adult. I know that this is a typical adult thing to say and I really loathe saying it but...that lonely? It'll pass. Being a teenager is such a brief time period. It's hard to ignore the violent emotions and it's so easy to believe that they are the only things in the world. But they aren't. There's life passed being a teenager. And I look back and I am proud of myself for not letting them turn me into someone I am not. Basically,and sorry for the cliche,be yourself. It may cause some grief now but you'll be thankful when you're older. I hope you have a beautiful life and sorry this was so long lol